The Day I Lost My Virginity

The Day I Lost My Virginity


Hi all,


Well we all born with some dreams, thoughts. But I believe the biggest dreams for any 17 – 30 yrs Boys/Girls are with whom and when he/she will get a chance to lose his/her virginity. Even I also have. I was the very craziest member of JAMPS group whenever we have discussion that when and how we can become MAN from boys. I’m sorry I forget to tell you about JAMPS group. It was groups of some extra ordinary boys of engineering college (of course not in logic of study). Name based on names of foundation members.


J – JAY
A- ANKESH
M- MRAGENDRA/MANTU
P- PRAJAPATI
S- SANDEEP



One evening after semester’s exam we make a plan to go Manali, a beautiful hill station in state of Himachal Pradesh. Within few minutes we all 5 got agreed and get activated soon. Around 2 Am we
reached ISBT (a bus station of New Delhi) and from there we get a bus for Manali. Bus launches at around 4Am and there begins a journey of dreams. I don’t know why guys like me get agreed to go there when we have so many places like famous GB Road. The best part of journey to any hill station is that you will get chance to see so many newly married couples (of course they are on Honeymoon). By 8 pm we reached their and start looking for a Hotel. Checking for some, we get room in one of the hotel. Hotel was on the top of Manali, a very beautiful outlook can be seen from windows. But we have something else in our mind, so soon we came to our target. We ask our waiter if he had any JUGAAD. We could not believe when he say that he can arrange for one on the same night at a very reasonable price. So we were getting ready as if this would be our honeymoon night. Taken bath with so many soap, shampoo, dressed the best dress we have.  Finally night came and we are waiting energized for her. We than had a fight for who will get chance to be first. So based on desperation level, we have decided that it would be Mantu to take chance first. Lastly she came, she looks nice with good body if not beautiful than the girl friends we have. We have another room, there we have decided to play all matches.

So Mantu get in for the match. We had wired period of silence, we are waiting for our turn to do for what we have infinite practice number of times. In between Mantu get out within 5 mins, his head was hung in shame and we could hear a loud laugh of girl. When we asked what happen, he said he failed to become a MAN and the girl was laughing at his situation. Now we could not let girl to think that engineering boys were just dudes not man. I went in.

One fear I had in mind when I get in was girl might be undressed. But thanks to Mantu, she had all her clothes and I would have pleasure of stripping.

She: “ So what do we have here. I hope we have something this time.”

She was wearing jeans and top. Was pretty fair, her hair covers her chest. I want to answer her and want to show that she was dealing with Engineers. I looked at her, she was smiling. But than I jump on her and start kissing directly. Prostitutes usually not let you kiss directly on their lips but I keep playing with her tongue. Later I got up and removed her top, she had a black lacy bra. She than started removing my shirt but this time I was charged. I took control and ripped her bra form the front. She wanted to complain for kiss but than I kiss her again with pressing her boobs. By this time she has removed by shirt and paints. She put her hand inside paint and grabbed it outside. She took it out and now my chance to go down on her. After few minutes, it was time to lose my virginity, it was time to go in. I pulled out a condom, she helped me wear it. I was on top and i was looking into her eyes. The moment really got to me and I said “I LOVE YOU.” After around 10 minutes of to and fro motion, with all positions

I was ready for the finial. And than …………..

I lay there with her for 5 minutes after that, contented that I had lost my virginity.

I was no longer a virgin. The date was June 29 and the time was 11:55 pm. So others also went it and performed successfully.

For the rest of trip we have good enjoyment and fun and after 3 days

we cam back with 3 MAN and 1 BOY!!!!

SlutWalk

Believe it or not!! My short skirt has nothing to do with you!!

Yesterday I found number of men & women moving from Jantra mantra holding similar banner to that of the topic above.  Few peoples understand what this parade is all about and those who don’t still might have been thinking for them as Anna’s supporter.

Anyways, it was SlutWalk which was very much loud and clear to give its expression i.e. against the women mental & physical harassment.  It was started from Toronto, Canada in april 2011 and within 3 months it reaches to Delhi... Amazing sprit and very much appreciated.

All around girls and boys are moving together and proudly called the movement as Besharmi Morcha. It is very much true that none of the people either they belongs from any society has right to tease, rape etc with the women. Watching around every day I found number of men wearing ear rings, long hair, so called stylish shoes in short they try to give appearance as semi men.  Even then girls never comment on them!  So who gives a moral right to men to give his direction on what is right or wrong for women?

I really understand girls have all right to wear what they want. But still I want to raise few points to them.  Let’s talk about Delhi where near to 65% peoples are outsiders. They came from different part of the country which is very much undeveloped.  It is not their fault if they are uneducated, underdeveloped and leaving home just for their livelihood. And you cannot accept for them to be open minded as you all sweet girls are. Getting situation more explained, what if I ask my wife to go in swim suit to nearby lake in my village, shall it be acceptable for the peoples living to that society..??

Ours India is not a Western Country where the culture is quite different and the Police force is strong enough to Control the comparatively smaller population. In our Country as we all know it is quite the Opposite of western countries. No matter what we say and do, we cannot honestly say Women can wear whatever they like and roam at any time in the night and yet not encounter being touched or eve teased. The only thing we can hope is that Law would be more stringent and effective to punish the culprits for each count of offence and development of the undeveloped part of the nation from where peoples came from. Again i am not BLAMING the VICTIM but saying things like "I can wear what i want and i can roam whenever i want” is extending the issue too far especially in our Country.

Few days there was a very popular songs in the TV channels “mai karu to saala character dheela hai”.  I am sure like me you grew up hearing takes of Krishna’s charming exploits including stealing clothes of bathing women. I don’t recollect there being any shame associated. It was, and is charming. It is playfulness, it is innocent flirting and it is charming as hell. Now imagine what would happen if he were to do so today.  Will that be accepted, NO!  None of the minds are pure to that level.

Girls please wait for the time till all the minds get pure else wait them to be developed and open minded like you.

Funniest conversation with the Father-in-law

1st morning after my 1st night

1st night !! Yes the 1st night with my loving wife. The most special moment of my life. The night when we both are so close without any barrier, any fear. It’s not all about making love, it about feeling love. Let’s not get deep into that, ahh  its personal moment.

You really have to work hard to marry with the girl with whom love. So many glitches, parents wish, family comments, friend’s question, so many. Those who are in initial phase of love, be ready soon you will also have to get numbers of lovely kick on your back!!!!

The only bad thing with love marriage is that you don’t have right to put any expectation of getting any gift. Gift, what we all known as dowry. This is good in my case. I got numbers of good gift items with most expensive one from my father in-law, his daughter. With all the things I have received, my favorite one is the car. The lovely Honda Civic. Even today after 3 years of marriage, I have special feeling for my car..

The let get into deep in the story. After marriage, my 1st night arrangement was at my father in law’s house. So many sweet in fact sexy sister in law’s were dancing all around making it more memorable night. Bed with so many red roses. Wife sitting in middle of bed like any Hindi Movie heroine does. Even though it’s not the 1st time I’m getting in bed with her, still it was amazing moment. I never love to waste too much of time so soon the light goes off and all happen next is understood.

The very 1st morning after the 1st night was different look. My wife (yup now I can call her wife) asked me to get fresh as all were waiting me for breakfast. Immediately reacted I reached at eating table. All waiting for me. It’s like  all eyes were asking to me, “Hey how’s your 1st night ??”. Suddenly my father in law asked :

Dad: So Son, did u have test drive..???

I was not expecting this, at least not from her dad. I was shocked, not really finding word what to answer. But seems all were expecting to my answer, I make myself bold and answered.

Me: Yes Dad, it is wonderful.

Dad: So did u like the color..??

“Color, what color dad was asking all about.? Color of her daughter..”

Me: Ohh, it amazing. (I also tried to be bold this time).

Dad: Must have enjoyed at maximum speed…??

Me: Amazing Dad.

Dad: Easy son, you both are new. Don’t get into much speed. Start with slow speed, you have life to enjoy, now you are the owner.

Me: Thanks Dad, but it’s not 1st time. We already have number of fun time before marriage also.

Dad: Before marriage, what fun Son..?? Father asked with different view.

Me: Hey Dad, with your daughter of course. We already have number of good time with maximum speed on my hostel bed.

Dad: (Slient). I was asking about CAR son.

Car, what car.. now I have no to answer to give. I just ran away from there… 

There are few moment that always memorable to you, it is now one of my best memorable moment of my life.

Hopefully newcomers to love marriage would learn some lesson from the story. Best of luck to them & to others also.

HELPLESS HUSBAND

26th March was the day we have decided to be one. Suddenly there was big change in life. Till that time I was alone king of living hood. Now I have someone to share all the good & bad time.  Really with an amazing feeling of happiness, there was feeling of responsibility .  Responsibility to take immense care of her life, carrier, feelings and number of things.

Don’t know from when I have line in mind that though marriage is a complimentary affair, that is the wife complimenting the husband in the home, nevertheless; the role of a husband in the house is invaluable. The husband according to the foundational intent of God was created to be the head of the home.

Headship is responsibility that every responsible husband must assume, Throughout the Gita, God treats marriage partnership seriously. The husband should be willing to respond to his commitment of managing his family in such a way that both God and society would be proud of. His goal in marriage should be more than been the head; it should be a father.

But the things are not easy in today’s time as it was earlier. I remember the time when at night when my father came from office even in the late hours he took visit to all the rooms and use to check all of us. When we got ill, father sat for all the night at chair even knowing that his sitting won’t do anything to fever. Its medicine has to do all, still he sits.

Now the world has change dynamically. Working timings has changed. We have to work in rotational shift. And incase if the lady partner is the working professional than the things became slightly complex.

Before any man get on bed to sleep, we wants to see and check for all the family members. Now what if his most important life partner is out from the home for working shift. Whatever happen, it is impossible to sleep. It’s not that man is against working culture of women’s but still there is a sense of worriedness in the mind.

Every evening, when man get back from home he is always willing to see his family in happy state but it became the most saddest moment when same time wife is getting ready to go work. It’s not easy for any man to express his feelings. Still that was the most unhappiest moment that he has to tackle daily.

A responsible husband is also a leader, leadership demonstrated by love. The husband that demonstrates to his family the capacity of setting values that encourages oneness in his family will have for a harvest a home of peace and joy. But sometime asking for changing the working time from the partner, there is worriedness in the mind it can be taken in against tone. We men never want anything from partner, but just a happy and safe family. It should be not be taken in wrong sense.

Providing for the needs of the house is a responsibility that marks a husband that is up to the task of taking care of his family. Providing essential needs like food, shelter, education, clothing and other vital needs of the family is the responsibility of the husband, though a wife that has the wherewithal can assist or compliment the husband's efforts. Getting assist from the partner is most happiest thing, but when at the cost of taking wife out for all night is somehow hard to accept.

Not really getting how to proceed further, but would like to stop with just a request to the most beautiful wife that you are placed at the most important place in men’s heart. Please don’t make us a HELPLESS HUSBAND.

Engineers.. No more good for marriage!!

Hello everybody.

3^rd September 1983 the day I born. Hopefully all were very happy. My father has taken me in his lap and a voice appeared I WILL MAKE THIS BOY A GREAT ENGINEER. That is the day my dreadful day started. Its not like that, being an engineer future is not safe etc. But very obvious yes something is lacking from the normal men’s. It is very much fact Engineers’ are no more good choice for any bridegrooms. Now mind must be grooming, why am I saying like this when we have so many good institute like IIT, IIIT!! No need to pressurize your small brain, give me some time I let you all agree to my point.

·         Let’s dig out from the beginning. We all (I mean to who wants be to an engineer) really work hard to get an entry to best colleges. Some of us get that also. Lesser the girls in the colleges better the college will be. From starting of the best days, all engineers are learnt to live away from most beautiful creator of GOD that is girls. So we never get a chance to learn what really these diva’s wants from us.
·         Many women gauge a man’s interest level by how long it takes him to respond when she contacts him. If his response time is poor, she might assume he’s just not that into her. But what exactly happen we never get so close to women’s, so even we have feelings we don’t get right way to express that…
·         Simply put, dancing with a woman makes her feel special. But unfortunately we just dance when we get drunk, else who knows steps of dancing. Ahh, no one I believe. Unfortunately, most engineers are reluctant to put their dancing shoes on, especially in a public metting.
·         Dressing is the way to take your woman out is an excellent way to impress her. But who have the time and mind for nice dressing. From starting, Engineers are never have taken dressing as seriously. Wearing unmatched clothes reveals as busiest person and so they feel glad.
·         As a rule, birthdays and anniversaries should always be remembered. Forgetting something of this magnitude will send the message that you don’t find her terribly important. After all, any partner probably memorized yours early on in the relationship, so if hers goes unnoticed, she’ll be utterly heartbroken. Now how this can be possible to remember the first time when u kiss her and when we have firstly taken her for date. It really tough job, and engineers always fail to do that.
·         Women love it when a man gets along with her friends, but she simply adores it when he gets along with her family. Even if you’re not particularly fond of her busybody mother and father, suggesting a visit can really make your woman’s day. But arranging holiday for this is really a big task and even getting some and that also spend with your in-laws is really not advisable way to spend a day. So again fails!!!
·         As much as we love sex, women also enjoy a nice, deep kiss that doesn’t have any strings attached. This serves two purposes: It lets her indulge in kissing for the sheer pleasure of it, and it also tells her you want her, and not just sex. Yes, you’re charming and sexy and she loves being naughty for you, but sometimes she needs a different type of connection. In between one call from office for an urgent work and you have to leave her incomplete really makes you as a bad husband. But with no option left , you have to leave.

But apart of all these cons, engineers are really a true lover. This in fact that they don’t know to express, they don’t have enough time to make love. But they have just a goal in their mind to let her partner to be as Queen and for that they can do any thing. They never have hesitation in doing extra timing work shift with leaving all the pleasure that can be achieve in bed. And this is all done for his loving partner.

Rest is on you all to decide, is really an engineers are bad choice for marriage??

60 year of Great Indian Poverty

Every day while going office I saw an old women begging for food. Very few person has time & extra money to offer her. Once I offered her an 1 rupee coin, i received an equal blessing that my mom use to give me.

It is by mere chance some of us are born into good families. Had there be a little miscounting by God, we would have been part of that society we call 'below poverty line'.

Our India is the nation of critics. Some criticize corruption while others condemn illiteracy an unemployment. But PROVERTY is also targeted.

It is by mere chance some of us are born into good families. Had there be a little miscounting by God, we would have been part of that society we call 'below poverty line'. As a child born into a vegetarian family, I was told that if I eat chicken, I would be born as a chicken in my next birth and chicken will be born as a human and eat me! I now wonder if I will be born to an impoverished family in my next birth, because of my apathy towards the poor. Don’t know ..??

I remember seeing some poor people working for Delhi shining project DELHI METRO under sun in a remote place in Delhi. These workers come from all parts of India. I met a family from Orissa who migrate every summer to Delhi to work in a various labor work. They have a fair amount of land back home, but the land is a sad mother that cannot give anything to her children because she is struck by drought.

The workers wake up before the sun rises, dig earth for giant pillar . When the sun reaches high in the sky and the heat gets unbearable, they take rest in a shelter, make broken rice and eat while waiting for the sun to calm down. At about 5 p.m, they restart their work - and often continue well past midnight if it is a moonlit night. They get a mere Rs 60 - 100 for making and laying a thousand bricks, and the family works as a unit.

Once, I met a rickshaw puller who had covered his body with a shawl. When I asked him why he had chosen this garment in such hot weather, he told me he had only one dress, which he treasured and wore only on Saturdays, when they go to the market. The next time when your child rough handles his clothes, I request you please tell him this story and teach him to respect his possessions.

Poverty does not indicate a lack of wealth. A poor person struggles all his life from morning to night, and continues doing so until he dies. His goals are simple: shelter and the next meal for him and his family, and he spends his entire life trying to fulfill this goal. Any wonder people call poverty a curse?

Yet, many of us take poverty for granted. We turn the other way when we see a beggar, because we are immune to their demands. This does not mean that begging should be encouraged, as beggars often resort to extreme measures for gaining sympathy - like pinching babies to make them cry and waving distorted body parts (which may or may not be really maimed) in our faces. Giving alms is not a solution, and should be discouraged at every step. However, each of us definitely should try and do our bit for the poor, in whatever way we can, and we should teach our children to do the same. After all, we are what we are because of our parents, teachers and the countless poor who performed innumerable tasks for us, enabling us to focus on the larger picture.

letter of apology

Respected Prime Minister,

New Delhi, India.

Last evening I found some of the teen age lads  were smoking cigarette, when I opposed them they said “when my Dad don’t have problem who are you to say”.  This is happening with Indian Political System.

My Grandfather is big supporter of yours. Through him, we came to know much about  your power, knowledge, commitment for work. When I was going for vote, I have no doubt in mind to whom I should vote for else than you.  But today after your press conference you prove me and many more, it was a wrong decision.

In our school days, we were learnt about Indian Political System. Teachers very proudly teaches us for the greatness of Indian Political System. From books I came to learn,  India is the world's most populous & powerful democracy. In India, the Prime Minister of India is identified as the head of government of the nation, while the President of India is said to be the formal head of state and holds substantial reserve powers, placing him or her in approximately the same position as the British monarch.

                                                                                                                                           If what we learnt is right and if  you really have this much power,  many of us not at all able to understand  how any minister of your cabinet can be allowed to do such big scam and it is not known to you. How any minister of your cabinet give cricket as more important than his own assign job.  We have only conclusion  in our mind that what we learnt was not right. And I humbly request you to please change the course book , so more generation stop at least excepting  from you .

Sir, today you said about collation government compromises . I want to inform you Sir, that number of figure that cost  for your compromises are out of your calculator to compute.  Scam after scam (and these are only the unearthed ones) show how we have created a monster of a system that rewards the evil and threatens the dream of India becoming a "first world" country.

Sir, today you say corruption is a disease. But that sounds a little defeatist. A disease is something inflicted upon us by nature. Corruption isn't caused by little bugs falling from the sky. Corruption comes from unchecked power, that uncheck power of yours.

As a nation we have enormous expertise in covering our backs and not rocking the boat. Right from school, Indians are taught to shut up and not question anything. But Sir, we are living in the great pressure. Pressure of inflation, corruption and many more.

When we thought to feel proud for INDIA, very sad picture came in our mind. I understand, It isn't easy to change things but it needs to be done. And you, of all people, have the best chance of taking this archaic bull by the horns and showing it the right direction.

Respectfully,

Jay Vardhan. 

valentine day

Love Letter 

Across the globe, valentine day witness exchange of flowers, gifts and cards.. All we do in name of St Valentine. February is the official beginning of spring and the fertility Love.  Love is feeling of contentment, happiness etc.. We all have different way to take what Love is.. !!!. Taking a biological approach to love reveals that human beings experience a mammalian drive, which is a strong urge to mate that is comparable to eating or drinking. We could also break down this drive into three parts: lust, attraction and attachment. Lust is what brings people out of the house and into dating society. Attraction encourages focusing one's attention on an individual mate for procreation. Attachment then forms and involves varying degrees of toleration. Scientists believe this toleration is instinctual. But all cannot be think from scientific view.

Whatever love is according to experts, scholars and scientist will only be of trivial concern to you. Ultimately, you must decide who you love and why. In the end, you don't owe anyone an explanation except your own heart. This is what you might call love in the real world - your world.

It's hard to tell yourself that you're not really in love when emotions run so high. Infatuation and true love can indeed be very difficult to differentiate. The same feelings that are involved in infatuation are also present in loving relationships. The difference is that relationships based only on infatuation have no other dynamic besides sensual pleasure.

Therefore, one of the first questions you should ask yourself is whether or not your love is unconditional. Would you love your partner if he or she started to change? Would you love your partner if their physical appearance diminished over time? Would you still love your partner if he or she were very sick? What if your partner were unfaithful to you?

I am remembering few lines from movie Spiderman that’s very much giving a feeling about LOVE:

:- “ when you look in her eyes and she's looking back in yours... everything... feels... not quite normal. Because you feel stronger and weaker at the same time. You feel excited and at the same time, terrified. The truth is... you don't know what you feel except you know what kind of man you want to be. It's as if you've reached the unreachable and you weren't ready for it." .

When you are truly in love with somebody, the petty things in life don't matter. Relationships based on love can survive sickness, financial difficulty and a host of other real world problems. Though infatuation may be what starts a relationship in some cases, real love transcends sexual attraction. Sexual urges come and go, but love is always in the air.

Love is based on personality compatibility, not just physical or mental attraction. If you really love someone you enjoy their company, their conversation and their outlook on life. You have much in common and when you do have personality differences, you are willing to sacrifice your own comfort to make your partner happy.

But for those who are not in love and not yet found their partners or have any breakdown in their love lines, its not like all ends here . Life never ends. A very famous poet written a very sweet poem on this ..

When others don't respect you,
When you're not amongst the admirable few,
When for a question, you can't find a solution,
When all you're sure about, is confusion,
Tell yourself - Go on, THIS IS LIFE!!

A very Happy Valentine’s Day to whom who is really in Love and also to those who are waiting to be Loved (of course like me)...  I wish for all to get their Love.